No "Jo"

In the last week I have been asked out on two coffee dates. I know, yay me, right?
Wrong.

The dates are with people I've seen in the past, and maybe now they're asking because I'm technically "available" again.

The truth is, I really don't want to have coffee with either one of them whether I have 50 boyfriends or am single as a dollar bill. I'm not trying to be mean. But I'm not interested in dating either one of them, and the friendship has probably run its course as well.

Last week I wrote a post on being truly happy with me first, before plunging into the dating pool again. If I want to meet someone great, I need to be a great person. And it's true. Just as I'm not very interested into developing an online profile, I'm not very interested in resorting to old stand-bys for the heck of it. It's not fair to me, and it's not fair to them. They deserve someone totally into them, and I'm not that person.

I know what some people might think....what's wrong with coffee? What's wrong with having the friendship? You're never going to meet anyone unless you try! It won't do you any harm!

I don't totally agree. Let's say I go on one of these coffee dates. It would be somewhat enjoyable, but so is reading a good book at home. And while I'm on one of these "dates," Mr. Right could be sitting across the restaurant. But is either of us going to approach each other in that situation? No. I just wouldn't do that, and most guys would probably think I'm dating the person I'm there with. I know this is a stretch, but how will I get the chance to meet a great person if I'm hanging out with someone who isn't so great? I won't.

I want my life to be as enjoyable as possible. If I don't want to have coffee, I won't. If I don't want to go to some bar until 2 am, I won't do that, either. Sometimes if I want to sit at home with my dog on a Saturday night, eating cheetos and watching TV, than so be it. In some cases, it's the better choice, and the right one for me.